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10 Things I've Learned in 10 Years

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It seems impossible that we are celebrating Jane Doe No More’s 10th Anniversary in 2017.  It was my personal experience with sexual violence and revictimization that gave birth to our organization.  However, over the years, we have become a message of hope for so many and I have come to realize that the resilience in my desire to help myself and others has become my divine calling – God’s plan for my life.

I have come to know that we learn the most from our greatest challenges.  I have learned to honor the value of taking risks, staying true to my faith, finding the courage to face my fears, and embracing my failures.  I have even come to recognize that a painful memory, triggered by a sound, a smell or an image, serves to fuel my passion for staying strong in our mission to end the silence around sexual violence.

I’m sharing my “Top 10” in hopes they touch your heart in some way

  1. Sexual violence is the MOST misunderstood and under-reported crime in the world.
  2. Sexual violence is far more prevalent than I could have ever imagined.
  3. Hundreds of thousands of victims of sexual violence are suffering in silence at this moment, reaching them can save their lives.
  4. Sexual violence crimes happen everywhere regardless of race, religion, gender, geography or socio-economic status.
  5. We all have unconscious biases. Education is the answer.  It is imperative that we make everyone aware of the realities and the personal and societal cost of trauma.
  6. First responders play a crucial role. They are not just members of law enforcement, they are firefighters, EMTs, medical professionals, legal professionals, teachers, family and friends who are the first to learn of the assault.
  7. The desire to be heard, believed and reassured that it was not their fault is what a victim needs first, foremost and always. No more shame. No more blame. No more fear.
  8. Truth is powerful. For survivors, coming forward and sharing their story is healing and empowering. It provides an opportunity to take back control while reaching other victims and educating society. #voice2change
  9. While the trauma of sexual violence may never go away, you have a choice in how to move forward. I choose love. I choose hope. I choose to make a difference.
  10. In order to help ourselves and others, we must practice self-care and nurture our minds, bodies and souls.

As Jane Do No More celebrates this important year I am filled with gratitude for the hundreds of people that share my passion to make a difference. I hope you will join us at one of the many activities that advance prevention and serve to help us liberate victims and our society from the tragedies of sexual violence.


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